When to Get Help

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If the strong emotions that began when your parents first split up last for a long time, and are really getting in the way of the normal things you do in your life, ask for help.

Feeling depressed, having trouble managing your anger, feeling extremely anxious, thinking about hurting yourself or escaping, or just feeling out of control are all situations that you can and should get help for.

Tell your parents, teacher, counselor or another adult you trust that you want to talk to someone who can help you, And if you aren't getting the help you think you need, keep asking until you get it.

Q & A

Q:
I'm feeling guilty about my parents splitting up. Was there something I did to cause it?
A:

It's very common for teens to believe that they have somehow caused their parents to split up. But you are not the reason for your parents splitting up. Parents split up because of problems in their relationship.

It's not your fault!

Q:
If my parents divorce, will the same thing happen to me?
A:

Many teens whose parents split up feel anxious about their own relationships in the future. But just because your parents split up doesn't mean the same thing will happen to you. What happens in your relationships will be up to you, not your parents!

Q:
I'm feeling really upset and confused about my parents splitting up. Is this normal?
A:

It's natural — and entirely normal — to experience some intense emotions. You will feel better over time. There are lots of ways to help yourself feel better, and people who can help you if you need it.